Dating an older man daddy issues
A woman with the Electra Complex constantly seeks attention from men, positive or negative, in order to compensate for her father’s absence from her life.
According to Jung, women who grew up with fathers who were physically or emotionally absent try to fill the role by getting male attention any way that they can. Just because you grew up with your father in the house doesn’t mean he was truly present.
My friends dad left her mum for his (then) 19 year old secretary who my friend was at school with (nice).
They now have 4 kids and he will be "working until he's dead" to quote my friend, but he was 58 when the youngest was born and with his lifestyle is pretty unlikely to see them have kids.
Like some women, you might latch onto one long-term serious relationship after another, seeking stability. The men you date don’t even have to be good men – in fact, some of them might be distant or abusive, like a bad father – but all that matters is that you never have to learn how to love yourself. A woman who plays into men’s desires finds herself coveted and showered with attention, if only for one night.
Sadly, you might be attracting jerks who are just using you for sex, and if you begin to associate sex with self-worth and control, you’ll get trapped in a cycle.
He is completely grey and looks about 55 and I on the other hand could still pass for a 17 year old. It sounds like an uneven relationship but you say it sounds worse than it is.
I have a great relationship with my father but those who know keep saying perhaps something went wrong with my Dad and hence I love the older type man. Why are you seeing this man and why do you not tell people? I wonder if he tells people about you (in a positive way)?
I have a great relationship with my father but those who know keep saying perhaps something went wrong with my Dad and hence I love the older type man. There's nothing weird about being interested in romantic partners who remind you of your dad in some way. If you both treat each other as complete equals and respect each others strengths and accept each others challenges, then age doesnt matter at all.He could have walked around without ever expressing affection for you or interest in your life.As a result, you might be so insecure that you constantly need your partner to reassure you that yes, you are loved.They can treat you like both a child and a lover, taking care of you but also desiring you.Unfortunately, just because a man is older doesn’t mean he’s more mature, and you might be drawn to an older man who is just like your father – in a bad way.