Japanese dating and marriage customs
I also experienced that they’re unable to do anything on their own.
When I ask them about how they got their cellphone or credit card they just answer they don’t know because their wife did it for them.
And at the same time there’s only a very tiny number of foreign (read: non-Asian) women with Japanese men next to them. Maybe that’s a secret we’ll never quite get, but there are many theories!
A lot of Japanese women want a guy that tells them several times a day how much he loves them.
The man only gets a small allowance every week or month and needs to ask his wife for permission if he wants to spend any more of his own hard-earned money!
Foreign guys often seem to struggle with this system.
It might be a bit more difficult if you’re looking for a serious relationship as there are those women I mentioned earlier who either want you as “exotic accessory” or just want your DNA to create a cute “half-child”.
stay home, take care of the kids, always pour new alcohol into his empty glass etc.).
You’ll start to feel completely unattractive and ignored at times.
Of course, you get a lot of attention and there’s all this staring, but it’s not because anybody is flirting with you … It might be a different story in bigger cities such as Tokyo and Osaka with a more international community, but in smaller cities and in the countryside with more traditional ideals it can be very difficult for foreign women.
In relationships where the man is foreign I noticed that they mostly speak his native language.
Although they live in Japan and sometimes even have children together who also speak Japanese, the foreign guys don’t / can’t speak Japanese.