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Although it’s obvious that traits such as “pretty colored eyes”, a “banging body”, “spunky and outgoing” personality, and non-abusive households are not limited to white women – for the longest time I felt as if my stereotypically “Asian” features – petite figure, brown eyes, and painfully shy personality made me less than beautiful.Believe my surprise when senior year of high school came around, most of the guys I knew were suddenly interested in dating (East and Southeast) Asian girls, but for all the wrong reasons.White men, black men, Latino men, and men of other ethnic backgrounds are seen as more masculine than Asians men.The reason basically for Asian men being more feminine in physical appearance is because of they produce more estrogen than men of other racial groups.My Asian American guy “friends” quietly unfriended me while their white friends bragged about the number of Asian girls they had slept with and told me to get out of the country if I didn’t like it. And the message from this 20-year old white woman on Tumblr parallels this sort of racist logic, as she espouses the same sense of entitlement toward Asian male bodies while simultaneously being incapable of viewing Asian people as anything beyond basic stereotypes.The good, if any that came out of this incident was the kind of support Asian girls and women on Tumblr expressed for each other and for the Asian men and boys that were being fetishized.I went through the majority of high school believing that being Asian made me unattractive.While I never hated being Asian and I have since moved past subscribing to Eurocentric beauty standards and seeking affirmation from others, white women at the time were the standard of beauty in my eyes, and seeing this post brought me back to those days where I did not think of myself as beautiful or desirable simply because I could never have those “essentially white” qualities she described.
First I want to address this phenomenon of fetishizing Asian men.
I’ve read them, I’ve shared them, and I’ve spoken out about it.
And when I did this, I was bombarded with vitriol from a multiracial coalition of proud Asian fetishizers from my high school.
Although I was initially flattered, it didn’t take too long for me to feel incredibly uncomfortable and recognize how messed up it was.
There’s plenty of brilliant pieces out there about the inherent racism and violence behind the fetishization Asian women.